Life is stressful. Bills pilling up, friendships are going by the wayside, and you are just feeling completely overwhelmed. Always remember that it is okay to breathe and that if you need a break, it's okay to take your time. The relationships you have lost, have been lost for a reason and you are hopefully a better person than you were yesterday. It's tiring to be continually growing, and especially with this economy and the state the world is in, it's hard to continue to see the point in anything. But this article is here to remind you that everything will be okay.
I know a couple of people who have stopped being friends with others for various reasons, and they miss those relationships. I'm here to remind you that someone's growth may grow away from yours, which is why they won't be in your life. Revisiting that time in your life is not going to help you heal. Finding them on social media won't make you feel better. Whether it was a romantic relationship or just a friendship, it will not really help to message them and attempt to get closure. I have tried this so many times with the people in my past and most of them had come to resent me, and put me back where I was when we started growing apart. How you can counteract those feelings is to know that you are growing into the person you should be. The person you were friends/lovers with, is growing into the person they should be. Take comfort in this fact.
Take everything one day at a time. It's okay to breathe and if you need a day off, take it. If you overwhelm yourself, you are of no use to yourself or others. If you are completely out of spoons/Hit Points/other analogy about energy. Give yourself time to heal on your journey. Life is not meant to be worked 100% of the time. You don't expect your computer or phone to work all the time. You must charge it and let it get back to where it is usable. People are like batteries. It is okay to breathe and recharge. You are not a failure for letting yourself heal. Not everyone heals at the same rate either, so if you need more than a day, or less, that's okay and you should never feel terrible for taking time for yourself.
Growing up doesn't have to be difficult. Goals are important, but they should also be realistic. The biggest goal you should have is growing into a good person. It is normal to have downfalls, and to stagnate a little. You follow your own growth process and create your own timeline of progress. Even if you only make a little progress, it's okay. Not everything has to be a sprint. Baby steps do add up, and one day I hope you get to look back and be proud of the person you've become.